Some people use terms of endearment to express well, their endearment, which leads me to wonder who decides how dear one person is to another? I have friends who call just about everyone they have ever met some pet name or form of nickname. (Hello muffin, anyone?) I have some friends who don't call anyone any kind of pet name ever. I get that it has to do with personalities, types of relationship (personal, professional, family, etc) and how comfortable the people may be with one another.
Call me strange but i'm kinda picky about who can call me something aside from my commonly used name and what they may actually call me. For example, one pet name that stands out in my mind is Baby Girl. There are four people on this Earth that can call me that name without immediately putting me into a fighting stance. If you're unsure if you're one of the four, you probably are not. Other than my mother, my neighbor/second mom Robin, my aunt Cecile and my Parallel, any other person calling me that will definitely get a death glare at the very least.
There is another term that some people use as a title of status (usually self-imposed) while others use it as a somewhat derogatory description or even an insult. For a while, lots of females, young and old, were wearing bedazzled and glittery t-shirts with this one word as if it was necessary to follow the trend while trying to declare one's status. There are keychains, license plate frames, car decals and bumper stickers emblazoned with this one simple collections of letters. What is this detested word that I have hyped up so much in the last few sentences? Well, since you asked, I shall share it with you. Are you ready? Here it goes. The word is PRINCESS.
Ugggghhh, just typing that made me gag a little bit. I've heard a lot of people refer to their daughters, granddaughters, nieces, neighbors, etc as princesses and sometimes I think that may build up a person's mindset to the point that they evolve into a diva and continue to be described as a princess with a negative connotation. When motherly figures refer to a girl as a princess, it usually means that said girl is absolutely amazing in her eyes and deserve any and every good thing that life may bring because she is somehow elevated above the rest. In my experience, when just about any other person describes a girl as a princess, it means that heffa is a snobby, elitist twatwaffle that many people find annoying because her "I'm better than you just because my daddy says so" attitude has less standing than a peg leg pirate in a termite infestation. I was called princess this morning by one of my mom's friends and i'm sure she meant it in a positive light (at least I hope she did) but I just can't stand being called princess.
Considering that I like to be thorough, I should mention that it's also quite awkward when people call me any kind of term that I might use when talking to my boo thang and said person is in fact NOT my boo thang. An example of this would be calling me sweetie, honey, baby, sweetheart, cutie, etc and you don't know my full name, what color my car is or most importantly, if I want you to call me such things (especially if it is accompanied by a creepy leer like the ones Steven Tyler dishes out to the underaged female contestants on American Idol) . In short, pet names are cool if you're close enough to a certain person. I personally don't mind them if we're close enough and you use the right ones. Just know that if you call me princess, there is gonna be a misunderstanding.
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