Let's Be Real #9

I encounter quite a bit of people who feel the need to ask me how tall I am. (For the record, I am 5'11.5")  I'm quite proud of my height, I absolutely love it. But somewhere in the conversation discussing my height, someone always has to ruin it by inquiring or demanding to know if I did/do play basketball. Constantly being asked "Do you play basketball?" or hearing "You MUST play basketball!" simply because of my height. I understand that height is a key advantage when playing the sport but is that the best thing you could come up with? When I encounter short people, the first thing out of my mouth is not "Are you a jockey? You must be a jockey, you're sooooo short!"

Let's be real here, it's very closed minded, annoying, and highly offensive to assume such things based on a person's height. There are lots of things tall people can do other than play basketball and reach things on the top shelf. Some of us can read books, bake cookies, ride bikes, color with little kids, try new restaurants, go to concerts or even write a blog (like this one). Basically, tall people can do the same things as short people but we can see over your head while we do it. So before you insist that someone must be something your peon brain has stereotyped them to be, think about how you might feel if someone looked you up and down and insisted that you are indeed a donut taste tester or something of the like based on your appearance.

By the way; if tall people can't wear heels, short people can't wear flats. Just sayin.

What am I doing here?

Recently, i've been evaluating my life and wondering what exactly am I doing with myself. I'm 26, i've been out of high school for nine years, and I have three college degrees. For some reason (partly the economy that everyone seems to blame everything on), I work in a retail establishment not enjoying my job or any time spent doing any job related thinking. When I think about that, I ask myself "What am I doing here?"

I've always known that I want to work in some professional capacity with an office but I just can't seem to narrow down exactly what I want to do. I find myself wondering if I should take a job that I never really saw myself doing and hope for the best or if I should stick it out and hope that I do encounter my dream job. Considering the current job market and the fact I would like to move out of my parent's house (again), i'm thinking I may have to go for the less-than-perfect-for-me kind of job.

On the contrary to that thought process, I sometimes wonder if i'm just supposed to be in the trenches right now, making connections and relationships to eventually start my own business(es). Maybe i'm supposed to remain somewhat available so that when the perfect opportunity comes floating by, I can jump on it without a second thought. Good things come to those who wait but better things come to those who hustle. I like good things and I don't like relying on other people for anything so maybe I will have to swallow my pride and become a big girl. Now, where the hell do I start?

Let's Be Real #8

I recently went to my cousin's wedding and even after taking off my 5.5 inch Steve Madden heels, I was still taller than most of the crowd. That height was to my advantage when it came time for the bouquet toss. In all my years of being a "single lady" and joining in such an age old tradition (well, i'm not sure how old this tradition is but you get the point), there has only been one time that I attempted to catch the bouquet and was unsuccessful. I don't mean i've been on a roll for three weddings in a row, I mean this streak is at least ten years old. With that said, i'm still single. (Well, i'm not LEGALLY hitched.) Anyway, let's be real; catching the bouquet does NOT bestow some kind of magical spell that causes the catcher to be the next to get married. If it actually does, I think i've snagged some defective yet beautiful bouquets.

Oh Facebook, you annoy me so!

So, some folks have noticed and others haven't. Honestly, I really don't care which group you may fall into. I have taken a hiatus from Facebook. I haven't been on since June 23rd and it's nice. Sometimes looking at my news feed sincerely bothers me. Seeing posts about hating a job, hating your ex, having haters (some of yall need to learn the difference between haters and people who simply state the obvious), excessive posters, people with bad attitudes and bad grammar/spelling or anything else that may find its way from the peon brain of a Facebook friend of mine to the News Feed is absolutely ridiculous. I get that we all have the right to post what we want and speak our minds. I also get the point that many people make by saying "If you don't like what I have to say, don't read it." Unfortunately, I wont know that I don't like it until after I read it but going along with that point, i'm now choosing not to read it. At least for a brief while. I took a similar hiatus in October and it was so nice. I still wondered how my friends were doing but I simply called or texted those people to see about them. Wild concept, eh?

The reason I did this is because there is already so much negativity in the world and in our own lives, I don't need to borrow the drama from anyone else's life. I know some people will say "That's your fault for letting others manipulate your emotions" and if that's how you feel, fine. This isn't about you, it's about me doing what is right for me. Because I do care about a portion of the people on my friends list, when something bothers them, I hope and pray for a positive resolution for them. Sometimes, it's simply too much. For those that I don't care about as much, it's simply whining and bellyaching being pumped into my personal space. I don't deal with whiners. I even tell my cousin's two year old that I don't put up with whining. She gets it and will stop whining and use her words.

With that said, if you've tried to contact me on Facebook sometime in the last eight or nine days, i'm not ignoring you, just the medium you chose to contact me through. If you really want or need to talk to me, my email, Skype, Twitter, and phone (as The Boy says "Talk on the phone? Do people still do that anymore?!?") are indeed working and you can try one of those. Not sure how long this hiatus will be and it's not really important. I do know that I have been more productive, harbor less bitterness towards the News Feed Evildoers, and feel so much better about myself since i've started ignoring the FB Notifications on my phone and avoiding the favorited website with that little blue icon. It's such a much needed relief and i'm going to enjoy it until I feel the desire to go back to my old technological timekiller. Until then, i'm enjoying the peace.